Tuesday, August 28, 2007

A cure for self-doubt

If ever you start to question your abilities as a parent, the stability of your home, the character of your children, the love shared between you, or your personal worth, I’ve found a great solution: hire a social worker. Truly, these people have an incredible knack for making a very ordinary family seem very extraordinary – at least on paper. Today we received a copy of our social worker’s report on Reagan’s 2nd post-placement visit, and to read it you’d think we walk on water. It’s all very nice, and I’m grateful that another American family will be represented well to the government of Vietnam, but are we really “exceptional parents in many different respects”? Doesn’t it take longer than 30 minutes to “observe an unconditional love and bond between [a child] and her parents”? Of course I can’t argue with his claim that “Reagan is a personable, happy and loving baby girl” or that “she frequently smiles and maintains a cheerful disposition.” But that’s my baby. The praise he’s heaped upon her parents is certainly appreciated, but almost comical in its extravagance. So if you’re feeling down, I’d recommend giving him a call!

2 comments:

GAIL AND PAUL said...

I KNOW WE'RE A LIITLE PREJUDICE IN YOUR SITUATION, BUT IT WOULDN'T TAKE LONG FOR SOMEONE SEE THE SMILES ON YOUR FACES AND THE LOVE YOU ALL EXPRESS TOWARDS EACH OTHER. OF COURSE ALL THE REAGAN'S OF THIS WORLD ARE NOT SO LUCKY AND WE ONLY PRAY THEY ARE AS QUICK TO OBSERVE A BAD SITUATION.

Margie said...

If that social worker had stayed for the day, she'd be able to write a book about your family..."God's design for the family lived out in real life." You are blessed, but we also know that one chapter would have to include the hard work and dedication you have both committed to making that family so ideal! We love you!

Mom